A level results are on Thursday 16 August 2018 – in case you didn’t know. It’s coming to the end of July already. The tensions may be starting to rise. Your teen left school/sixth form back in June. Where on earth has the time gone!
PERHAPS WHAT NOT TO DO
Don’t go on about results day!
I remember, with my son, I didn’t want to keep talking about results day. I felt he was aware already of the date and its implications.
Don’t focus on the results!
Throughout the exam season, I just encouraged my lad to do his best. Looking back – that sounds so patronising! But he was already under alot of pressure to do well. His sixth form was very results driven and they put enough on him already. I just felt enormously proud that he was doing his best to get the best results he could. And that was what I wanted him to understand.
The same for my daughter now. She sits her A levels next year and I am so proud of her!
Don’t expect your teen wants you there on results day!
Your teen may want to collect their results with friends. Or on their own. Or maybe with you
Don’t talk about your own results day!
You do understand what they are going through because you have gone through exam results also. However, this is unique for them. Don’t try to compare your experiences with theirs. Nor anyone elses exam result experiences!
PERHAPS WHAT TO DO
Talk to your teen!
I think it’s okay to talk and okay to listen. Ask them how they are feeling. Reassure them – especially if they are staying in their room a bit more often. Are they sleeping? How are they eating? Give them your time.
Keep it fun!
We didn’t manage a holiday in 2015. I even had to do jury service in the middle of August! What we did organise were days out. We organised bowling days. We paid for going to the odd gig with friends. The weather, in 2015, was awful – by the way – so even though we live by the beach there weren’t too many days sunbathing! But we had alot of laughs as a family
My son – and now my daughter – have jobs. They earn some money to be able to feel independent, keep busy and buy ridiculous things if they wanted.
Be guided by your teen!
Follow your teen and how they are feeling. That is definately not allowing them to be rude or aggressive. For example, don’t expect to be with them on results day if they really don’t want you there. By all means, organise something on the date of the results – celebration or commiseration. However, they may want to be with their friends on this day. Just wait and see
Do your own research!
You already know which university your teen is hoping to go. UCAS will forward the results to the chosen university. Your teen should receive an email from the chosen university if the grades are sufficient. Happy days!
However, if the grades aren’t quite there, your teen still can contact the chosen university to discuss.
If it hasn’t quite worked out, UCAS clearing will help. There are loads of courses out there with other universities who may accept your teen with their grades.
Conversely, if the grades are better than expected UCAS Adjustment Service will allow you to check other universities to change the course – and ‘trade up’ as it were.
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I would really love to share your experiences. Please get in touch and tell me what works for you!
Thank you – and good luck!